Roka and Kurmai: The Sikh Engagement Explained

Before a Sikh wedding, families mark the agreement to the match with the Roka and Kurmai. These joyful ceremonies formally begin the couple's journey towards marriage.

The Roka

The Roka is often the first formal step, when the bride's family visits the groom (or vice versa) to signal that the search has stopped — both families have agreed to the match.

The Kurmai

The Kurmai, or engagement, is a larger celebration, frequently held at a Gurdwara. There may be ardaas, exchange of gifts, and the sharing of sweets to bless the union.

Customs Vary

Every family and region does these a little differently. What stays constant is the spirit — two families coming together with warmth and blessings.

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